RASHIM
About Rashim
RASHIM is a guide for making sense of sex, relationships, and healing. Created by Ignacio Rivera and Aredvi Azad, it draws on over 30 years of experience as sexuality scholars and facilitators. Rooted in healing justice, RASHIM bridges vision and practice, offering pathways for accountability, harm prevention, and the everyday skills that sustain sexual healing and liberation.
The Rivera-Azad Sexual Healing Integration Model (RASHIM) offers a roadmap for sexual healing that captures the past, present, and future of our sexual relations. RASHIM locates nine areas of sexuality navigation, referred to as Pillars. Each Pillar represents a unique step in human sexual evolution and contains experiences, ideas, feelings, and actions. While the pillars are interconnected and relevant throughout our lives, they are categorized into three stages: rooting, growing, and yielding.
The Orbit of Connection transforms the information discussed within Pillars and the Foundation into life skills. Relationships are what make us human. This includes our relationship with ourselves, our family, our community, and the state. Information alone cannot heal our individual and collective sexual wounds. It is through good connections and community involvement that we can apply our knowledge to heal and create change. These connection skills include empathy, accountability, compassion, boundary-setting, and the like.
The outermost layer of RASHIM is the Cycle of Healing. This is where the ongoing and cyclical work of healing takes place. Trauma not only disturbs our connections, but it threatens our survival and takes away our sense of safety. Healing must begin with providing conditions of safety so that we can explore different possibilities for integrating with ourselves and others. In the process of exploration, we may be disappointed, heartbroken, triggered, or even re-traumatized. This is when acceptance is needed to facilitate a path back to safety.
Our current relationship to human sexuality is built upon historic realities of reproduction, gender, and sex, especially as they pertain to marginalized communities (e.g. people with disabilities, people of color, poor people, labor migrants, and refugees). Understanding systems of marginalization throughout history as well as their current manifestation in our culture is required in any discussion of who we are and how we relate to sex and relationships. Culture itself is an integral piece of how we shape our ideas and the kind of information we believe to be true. Lastly, without a vision, we are bound to repeat past mistakes. Active visioning is necessary for productive engagement and for creating a world without sexual violence.
Sexual healing is not a one-dimensional or an individual journey. As a society, we have a responsibility to collectively heal our sexual relations across our communities, institutions, and governing bodies. We must heal the fear-based and shame-based approaches to sex. Expanding our idea of sex beyond its heteronormative and reproductive aspects, we must focus on navigating sexual relations safely, intentionally, and powerfully.